The Cost of Japa: Nigerian Woman Shares Heartfelt Story of Leaving Husband Behind for a Better Future

 

A Nigerian woman based in the United Kingdom (UK) has openly expressed her deep longing for her husband, whom she left behind when she relocated to the UK. In an interview, she shared her struggles and sacrifices as she pursues a brighter future for herself and her family. Her story shines a light on the rising wave of Nigerians seeking to "japa" (migrate) to other countries, especially the UK, amid tightening visa regulations and economic uncertainty in their home country.

The lady, who chose to remain anonymous, made the difficult decision to leave Nigeria in 2023 in search of a better life, as millions of Nigerians have done over the years. Her move came at a time when many Nigerians were facing a series of immigration challenges, including stringent visa rules and a decline in post-study work opportunities. The government’s recent restrictions on dependents traveling with students have particularly impacted families, making it even harder for Nigerians to make such a life-changing move together.

The year 2023 saw a record 1,574,357 Nigerians leaving the country, with many opting for the UK as their destination. However, the number of student visa applications from Nigeria to the UK has significantly decreased, in part due to the UK's increased visa rejections. According to data from 2024, the rate of UK visa rejections for Nigerians soared dramatically, from one in 31 applications in 2022 to one in eight by the end of 2023. For many Nigerians, these figures reflect the rising barriers that come with pursuing higher education or job opportunities abroad.

For this particular woman, the cost of relocating was far from easy. She revealed that she spent a staggering £13,000 for her university fees and an additional £2,000 for various other expenses, including visa application fees, the Immigration Health Surcharge (IHS), tuberculosis (TB) tests, biometrics, and more. When factoring in the flight ticket cost of approximately N750,000, she spent around 15,000 pounds in total. With the exchange rate at the time being N1,100 to the pound, that equated to approximately N17.25 million in total.

She also had to show proof of funds amounting to 12 million naira in her bank account, though she emphasizes that this was not money she spent but was required by UK immigration authorities to demonstrate financial stability. While this amount may vary from person to person, it highlights the immense financial pressure that Nigerian students face when trying to migrate to the UK.

Reflecting on her decision to leave Nigeria, the woman explained that it was motivated by a desire to escape the insecurity and economic instability that has plagued the country. "We wanted easy access to other parts of the world, and most importantly, we did it for the future of our children," she shared. The desire for a safer environment, as well as opportunities that would allow her to thrive, were central to her decision. Despite the heavy emotional toll, she believes the sacrifices made for a better life are ultimately worth it.

One of the most painful aspects of her relocation, however, has been the absence of her husband. The UK’s new immigration rules, which came into effect on January 1, 2024, have made it even more difficult for families to reunite. These regulations restrict students from bringing their dependents with them, leaving many separated from their spouses and children. For this woman, who started her master’s program in January 2024, being apart from her husband has been an ongoing challenge.

Though she faces the pain of separation, she remains hopeful and grateful for the opportunities she now has. "The best thing about this experience has been the beauty of Wales," she said, describing the breathtaking natural landscapes that have left her in awe. She also expressed excitement about exploring other parts of the UK, finding solace in the peaceful environment and scenic views.

While she has encountered hardships, the woman expressed a deep sense of fulfillment in continuing her career as a swim instructor in the UK, a profession she maintained back in Nigeria. This continuity in her career, combined with the promise of a better future, makes the sacrifice of leaving her husband behind bearable.

Despite the challenges, the woman remains determined to help others achieve their dreams of migrating. "If I had the means, I would help others relocate in a heartbeat," she said, adding that the prospect of assisting others on their journey is something she is passionate about.

Ultimately, her story underscores the growing trend of Nigerians seeking new opportunities abroad, even as they face mounting visa restrictions and the emotional toll of leaving loved ones behind. As more and more Nigerians make the difficult decision to "japa," their stories reflect not only the harsh realities of immigration but also the hopes and dreams of those seeking a better life for themselves and their families.