Prophet Emmanuel Okose Sparks Debate: Showers With Your Wife or Your Marriage Is 'A Joke' [VIDEO]

 

Prophet Emmanuel Okose Rebukes Husbands Who Avoid Intimate Acts, Calls Showering With Wives a Sacred Bond

A recent sermon by Nigerian clergyman and former gospel singer, Prophet Emmanuel Okose, popularly known as Soul E, has sent ripples across social media platforms and sparked conversations around marital intimacy. Known for his dramatic preaching style and spiritual declarations, Okose took a firm stance on what he considers a sign of a healthy and deeply spiritual marriage—couples showering together.

The controversial remarks, delivered in a video that quickly went viral, did not mince words. Addressing married men directly, Okose asserted that any husband who has failed to shower with his wife at least ten times in a year should be considered a “useless man.” His strong choice of language raised both eyebrows and debate, as many tried to interpret the deeper spiritual and emotional undertones of his message.

He argued that sharing a bath with one's spouse goes far beyond physical cleanliness. To Okose, the act represents a profound spiritual connection, an unspoken covenant that binds the couple in unity. According to him, something powerful transpires when a man scrubs his wife’s body—including her private parts—during these shared moments. That connection, he said, brings joy and unlocks a divine energy that strengthens the bond between husband and wife.

“There’s a power that flows from a woman’s body to a man’s spirit during such intimate exercises,” he preached with fervor. “Scrubbing her like a child, bathing her as a father would care for his daughter—it’s not just love, it’s a divine act. When she returns that love, that care, you cannot fail as a man.”

These statements weren’t made as lighthearted relationship advice. Okose positioned them as a spiritual directive, suggesting that neglecting such acts undermines the very foundation of a marital relationship. For him, the absence of such shared rituals is indicative of a relationship lacking intimacy, unity, and mutual reverence.

Critics have called the sermon divisive, arguing that intimacy manifests in various forms and cannot be reduced to symbolic gestures like showering together. Some have described his approach as overly prescriptive, especially for couples who face logistical or cultural barriers to such habits. Social media users, especially women, were divided—while some applauded the emphasis on emotional closeness and nurturing physical acts, others viewed it as an unnecessary standard to measure marital success.

Supporters of the prophet defended his passionate stance, claiming he’s shedding light on how small, consistent acts of intimacy can keep a marriage vibrant. According to them, Prophet Okose is challenging couples to move beyond transactional cohabitation and into a space of shared affection and spiritual bonding.

A portion of his audience emphasized that his language, though brash, is not without precedent. Within African religious spaces, many spiritual leaders often employ strong, direct rhetoric to provoke self-reflection. For Okose’s followers, the message wasn’t merely about bathing but about restoring affection and connection in marriages that have become routine or estranged.

Marriage counselors and psychologists have also weighed in. Some see merit in the idea that shared physical rituals can boost marital satisfaction, though they caution against turning such practices into ultimatums. “The idea of mutual vulnerability—whether it’s through bathing, shared meals, or late-night conversations—can indeed deepen intimacy,” noted Lagos-based therapist Chioma Ezekwesili. “However, intimacy is not one-size-fits-all. What works for one couple may not work for another.”

Still, Okose remains unapologetic. He insists his words are not aimed at judgment but revival. For him, the modern marriage is under spiritual attack, and these seemingly trivial acts may be the keys to reinforcing unity.

“When she looks at you and smiles in that bathroom, when there’s laughter, water, touch—it heals more than prayer can sometimes,” he declared.

Whether or not his message resonates, the conversation it has sparked is undeniable. For many Nigerian couples, the prophet’s viral sermon has opened the floor for deeper discussions on affection, connection, and what it truly means to nurture a marriage beyond traditional roles.

What remains clear is that Prophet Okose, never one to shy away from controversial teachings, has once again stirred the waters—literally and figuratively.

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