“They See You as a Villain”: Paul Okoye Calls Out Entitlement Mentality, Says Helpers Become Villains When They Stop Giving

 

Popular Nigerian music star, Paul Okoye, better known as Rudeboy, has stirred up conversation online with a blunt message on entitlement and how quickly people’s perceptions can shift when generosity comes to an end. Known as one-half of the now-defunct P-Square duo, the singer took to Instagram to vent his thoughts about the harsh reality many givers face.

Rudeboy reflected on how relationships change once financial or emotional support is withdrawn. According to him, some individuals are only loyal as long as they benefit from what you offer. The moment you stop meeting their demands, their attitude changes completely; they begin to view you in a negative light, forgetting every good deed done in the past.

His words carry the weight of personal experience, resonating with a large audience who could relate to the idea of being judged harshly for setting boundaries. He described a pattern where those who are helped the most often become the first to criticize, not out of genuine concern, but from a sense of entitlement.

“Sometimes in life ehh! The people wey you de suffer for and carry cross for no go send you… until you stop giving them… Then you will become the bad person,” Rudeboy wrote, making it clear that appreciation is sometimes temporary, and loyalty can be conditional.

This statement sheds light on a broader societal issue, particularly in Nigeria and similar cultures where communal support is both a virtue and a burden. The singer’s post has sparked discussions about the toxic side of generosity, especially when recipients begin to treat kindness as a right rather than a privilege.

Supporters of Rudeboy quickly flooded the comment section, agreeing with his sentiments. Many shared their own experiences of being used and discarded when they were no longer useful to certain people. Others praised him for speaking openly about a reality that is often ignored or downplayed.

In the Nigerian entertainment industry, public figures are frequently expected to maintain a constant flow of support to family, friends, and even distant acquaintances. Celebrities like Rudeboy, who have achieved fame and financial stability, are often seen as obligated to share their success continuously. The pressure to keep giving, regardless of personal boundaries or circumstances, is intense.

What Rudeboy is emphasizing is not the act of giving itself, but the lack of gratitude and empathy that sometimes follows. People rarely consider the emotional, financial, and mental toll that continuous giving can take on the giver. There is little to no understanding of personal limits. Once the help stops, so does the respect, and the narrative shifts to one where the once-generous person is now accused of being selfish or proud.

His message challenges people to reflect on their behavior toward those who have helped them. Do they appreciate the support genuinely, or have they come to expect it as a duty? And more importantly, do they recognize the giver’s right to say no without painting them as the villain?

Rudeboy’s words may have come from personal frustration, but they strike a chord with anyone who has ever been taken for granted. The line between kindness and obligation becomes blurred when people begin to assume that your help will never run dry.

Rather than fostering a culture of appreciation and mutual respect, entitlement creates emotional exhaustion for the giver and resentment in the relationship. Eventually, those who give begin to withdraw, not because they are unkind, but because they are tired of being misjudged and misused.

With this latest message, Rudeboy reminds his fans and critics alike that it’s not wrong to help others, but it is important to protect one’s peace. Setting boundaries is not an act of wickedness. It is a necessary step in preserving self-worth.

While some may twist the narrative when the gifts stop coming, the truth remains: being generous does not make one obligated forever. And choosing to stop giving does not make anyone the bad guy.

In the end, the real question becomes not how much you gave, but how much people respected you once you stopped.