Wizarab10’s Message to Nigerian Men: Love Cannot Be Bought, and Real Women Don't Want You Broke for It [OPINION]

 

Sir Dickson, known on X as @Wizarab10, has stirred necessary conversation with his bold and thoughtful commentary on love, money, and modern relationships among Nigerian youth. In a thought-provoking post that has since gone viral, Wizarab challenged the unhealthy obsession many young men have with using money to validate themselves in relationships.

His core message is clear: “There is nothing good about poverty,” but the way many men understand and chase money is deeply flawed. Far too many equate financial spending with emotional worth, especially when it comes to relationships with women. According to Wizarab , this distorted view is leaving men emotionally drained and financially unstable.

He argued that money is important, but not for the reasons many men think. Money is meant to offer stability, pay bills, support loved ones, and create a life of peace. That foundation of peace, he explains, is what makes a man’s life attractive to others, not his ability to blindly spend on partners. When life is built well, love finds its way in naturally. “It is not for you to be using money to chase them,” he wrote, emphasizing that no one can purchase real affection.

Wizarab  went on to dismantle the widely promoted idea that expensive gifts and extravagant spending are the key to winning a woman’s heart. In his words, “Money is not the cake. Money is just the icing. Love is the cake.” While money can help express love through gifts or surprises, it cannot create love where it doesn’t already exist. Real relationships, he explained, require love first, not a financial transaction.

He also stressed the importance of balance and mutual effort in giving. “As you're spending, she is spending,” he noted, making it clear that healthy love involves both partners showing commitment. Any situation where one person carries the entire financial weight is not just unfair, it’s dangerous. Where your treasure is, there your heart will be, and both hearts must be invested.

One of the most powerful parts of his message was his warning to men who are sacrificing far beyond their means in a bid to keep their relationships. He criticized the trend of university students buying luxury phones for girlfriends, or low-income earners saving months’ worth of salary just to meet a partner’s material expectations. “You have no business buying an iPhone for a babe while you're in university,” he wrote. The problem, he explained, lies in how easily young men fall into the trap of chasing social media standards instead of focusing on their reality.

More painfully, he called attention to a hard truth that many overlook: if a woman demands what you cannot afford or threatens to leave if her wants aren't met, she is not for you. “You're dating your enemy,” he said bluntly, reminding men that love never pressures or exploits. A woman who truly loves you will never make unreasonable demands. In fact, she would reject gifts that come at the cost of your well-being, appreciate your intentions, and push you to use your head, not your wallet.

Wizarab  made it clear that the act of giving should be tied to capacity. Every class of person can love, he wrote, because love has nothing to do with financial wealth. Even in a modest situation, sharing what one can is meaningful. What matters more is who you’re with, not where you are or how much you’re spending. “A love relationship is a love relationship, even if it is in Ajegunle or London,” he wrote. And on the other side, “A toxic relationship is toxic even if you are on a $20k trip to Paris.”

He also addressed the psychological toll of trying to keep up appearances in relationships. The pressure to impress is harming men emotionally and financially. “Pressure wants to kill you on top money you don’t even have,” he stated, adding that a man who feels forced to spend beyond his means for love needs to re-examine his relationship.

Wizarab’s words are a necessary reminder for young men navigating love in the age of social media illusions. His message calls for a deeper understanding of self-worth, the real meaning of affection, and the need for relationships built on truth, mutual respect and emotional investment.

Sir Dickson didn’t just criticize the problems, he offered a roadmap. Choose peace over performance. Focus on building a stable, fulfilling life. Value the people who value you, not just your account balance. And most importantly, “stop dating your enemies.” Because at the end of the day, as he rightly puts it, “You’ll accept the love you think you deserve.”